Bad or Good?

Do you ever read stories of horrible things that Christians had to go through, and think, “God chose that for them. I don’t want Him to choose that for me.” There are times I take fearing God to the wrong place. How can I trust Him when He puts people through these horrible situations? Of course, I switched words right there, from fear to trust. And, of course, that’s the key.

We fear God because He is literally awesome. He created the heavens beyond what we even know and understand. He literally rules the universe and with a word could take away everything from all of us. Of course, He tells us constantly in His word to not fear. We are supposed to trust. But how can we? By knowing Him, knowing His character, His unchanging, never-failing, always trustworthy character. We know He is perfect and He is love. We know that in His love we have no fear of punishment. He has removed our sins from His sight.

Do you think kids can learn that consequences are God’s goodness working out in their lives? Because even what Satan himself intends for our harm, God uses for our good and for His glory. This post was inspired by the Scripture in the sister post on Life in Christ – Christ in Me.

Following Jesus

Sometimes it seems like the Bible doesn’t have answers to important questions. What school should I go to? What job should I take? Where should I live? I know I have fallen into the trap of desperately seeking from God an answer about which path to take. Why is it a trap? Because we are seeking a path to follow, a destination to get to, instead of seeking the One we’re supposed to follow. The things that seem so important aren’t always as important as we make them out to be. What is important is keeping your eyes on Jesus and seeking Him.

Of course, everything is more complicated with kids. We want them to make goals, plan a path to get there, work towards it. But to do it apart from looking to Jesus isn’t the way to go about it. We look to Jesus and do what He has before us until He shows us something else, leads a different way. We need to hold all the plans and goals lightly as we follow One who can move as the wind blows, or as CS Lewis puts it, “He’s not a tame lion.” He may not lead them down smooth, well-defined trails that we’re comfortable with. We need to allow our kids to follow and trust God to lead.

How are you teaching your kids to follow Jesus, to keep their eyes on Him? Do you trust God to lead them or do you have fears about where He might lead?

Sister Post on Life in Christ – Christ in Me

Love Languages

I made a list of ways to show my husband love with words. If you’ve ever read about the different things people seem to need in order to feel loved, then maybe you’ll remember that words is one of those things that everyone needs, but that some really crave.

Of course, as opposites attract, words are the hardest for me to give. They maybe matter least to me. The praise of others rolls off my back if I find fault in what I have done. I’ve mentioned I’m a perfectionist and gifted fault finder, which means words of criticism come easier than words of affirmation.

So, I worked at it. I made a list. I wrote a poem. I made a video. I designed a t-shirt. I bought cards and a couple children’s books.

My husband liked them, but then he told me he didn’t need those things. His love language changed, seriously changed to match mine, the kind I gave easily, without thinking. It was a gift from God to my husband and to me. Now when I say words of affirmation, he treasures them deeply, knowing I didn’t “work” at producing them.

I have thought my kids had one love language, such as touch for my cuddle bugs, but then as they grew it seemed to change. But maybe now my approach has changed, I think I’ll just love them and ask God to translate the message.

Post-log: I realized I forgot to add a picture to the post. I thought of this one. It’s our car. I realized that I did love my husband with words without even thinking about it. He had mentioned one day that he wanted an “I love my wife” bumper sticker. I made the set and gave it to him for Christmas.

Life In Christ – Christ in Me